5 questions that make or break a potential gay hookup

It’s no secret that many of us feel connected to many guys on gay dating apps. But what if you want to take this mere flirty affair to the bedroom? So, if you’re interested in having an extremely enjoyable, orgasmic hookup, learn more about the guy you have been physically attracted to. Make sure you ask him these 5 questions that will help you get where you want to go from the ongoing dynamics. 

1. Would you identify yourself as more top or bottom?

Any versatile guy will always find it tricky to know the prospective date’s sexual preference. But, once you get to it, everything is a cakewalk in the bed. When you know the guy you have feeling very h*rn*y about, all you have to do is trying the position that will shake him up, quite literally. 

2. Are you emotionally ready to have sex?

You may be 100% into this guy, but he has to be mentally present with you in the bed too. If the guy you have been talking to just broke up with his boyfriend, ask this question. For some, sex is an emotional act. This is why this question will help you make sure the other person in a good emotional place. If he nods YES, both of you are ready to experiment, to start an adventurous journey and see where it goes.

3. Are you willing to experiment in bed? 

This is a question all tops must ask bottoms. If you are a dominating top, ask your guy if he is into kink. If you are speaking to a gaybie, he may be hearing the term for the first time. So make sure you explain to him what kink is – anything that falls under non-traditional intimate desires or fantasies. Kink will mean different things to different people. So, it’s best to ask as many questions as possible to establish boundaries. 

Remember – consent and communication are fundamental to any positive sexual experience. Anyone who fails to respect these basic principles is very likely not worth even the first shot.

4. What puts you off sexually? 

The sex may be casual, but the act itself has to be taken up seriously. Some of us might enjoy being slapped or bossed around while others among us are horrified at the thought. Bad hygiene, not enough foreplay and lack of passion could be some of the deal breakers for some. But they can turn someone on as well. So, it’s best to ask whatever comes to your mind about likings and turn-offs in bed. The good news is it’s never too late to ask these questions. You can ask them right before jumping into bed. After all, sex should be great, regardless of what kind of liking you have in the bed.

5. I hope you are not into bareback. Are you? 

This may sound like a basic question to ask, but it is valid. As a thumb rule, you and the person on the other side should be absolutely comfortable with condoms. This should really be a no-brainer for anyone using condoms as a form of protection. Many, if not all, Indian gay men must have been in a situation where a guy has resisted wearing a condom. To be with a hot guy, we get swept up in the heat of the bareback dream at the same time. Take it from me; it happens to the best of us. But, you must snap out of it and protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections.